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Sunday, 15 February 2009 |
By Roberto Garabell
 The numbers of online daters looking for love is increasing. Bringing with it the challenges of frustration and disenchantment with the online dating process. Most people are not meeting the right people or even worse, they're not getting any results at all. Many are turning to Online Dating Coach, Chaszey Sandhriel.
"The reason most people are not getting the results they desire is because their profile is a contradiction to who they truly are and what they are truly looking for in a partner. They desire one thing and communicate another," says Chaszey. She adds: "Internet dating starts with a profile that stands out and projects strength because it puts your most authentic Self forward and because you accurately describe who you are looking for in a life partner."
A successful profile can be put together remembering these three important steps:
1. The right screen name Most people tend to forget that screen names communicate novels. Screen names like "ServeMeRight," "Looking2Please69," "WorshipGoddess" may communicate things to people that you had not intended. Try not to communicate too much with your screen name
and definitely don't leave room for guess work when choosing your screen name.
2. Choosing photos that work "People don't realize that the main headshot is what many people base their decision on and based on this one picture some may never even look at the profile, so your main photo is the most important one," says Chaszey. It's amazing to see how many people put photos up wearing their sunglasses and baseball cap, covering just about anything important. This will result in many people never even opening up their profile. Your main photo should show your eyes and your face and you should not wear a hat, even if you're bald. Photos that produce result show your eyes and face and you look into the camera. Photos should show you in a variety of settings, headshot, half body shot and full body shot. This is not the time to hide what you look like, this is the time to be honest.
3. Your profile Give an accurate and true picture when describing yourself. People don't realize that online dating is not a writing contest and no awards are given anywhere to anyone. This is an attempt of the heart to finding that true love that you so deserve. Yet people try to do so by falsefying their profiles, making themselves sound like they want to be, rather than who they truly are. They don't realize that by giving a false picture of themselves, no matter how great it sounds, never allows for that true love to come into their space. It's a contradiction and it can only go one way: the wrong way. Instead, be honest, sincere, ethical and authentic. Don't worry about what others think of you, it's none of your business. Worry about accurately describing yourself so you can attract that one special person.
4. Be clear when describing the partner you want to attract to you Most people are asking for someone with qualities that they themselves have not mastered yet. Your spouse just dumped you because you cheated and now you make it clear in your profile that you're looking for someone honest and loyal. It's a contradiction. Once you get clear with who you are and you're able to truly look at every aspect of what has created you, then you can honestly and open-eyed look at the person you want to attract to yourself. Only when you can get crystal clear with who you are can you can ever clearer with whom you want.
Thomas writes articles for single men and women looking for the top online personals.
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