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Can This Marriage Be Saved? |
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Written by Webmaster
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Friday, 30 January 2009 |
By Darren Gladstone
 Why Divorce? You've played the dating game, had a terrific wedding and all is going smoothly. The days are relaxed, the nights are romantic and all is right with the world. And then, one morning you wake up and something is wrong. The feelings are different, the disagreements have become more frequent and the marriage is starting to go downhill.
So what happened?
Has one of the partners cheated? Is there a difference of opinion ALL the time? Is one of the pair being constantly ignored? Or is one of them so needy it puts pressure on the other? Maybe the "spark" has just fizzled out of the marriage.
Not a Lost Cause.
Is this marriage a lost cause? Is separation and divorce the only course to choose? Most marriage counselors maintain that a majority of relationships can be put back on track, and the original passion re-ignited or even increased. After all, if you loved once, you can love a second time.
So what should you do?
In order to avoid lengthy counseling and costly
therapists, there are several things you can do on your own which have proved extremely successful.
The first thing you need is to work on what is wrong and how to fix it. There are guide books and internet sites that offer advice and expert suggestions. Sometimes it is advisable to read the books together; other times, individual reading is recommended. But all activities should be carried out together of course.
Energize the Passion
The next step is all about refreshing your relationship with your partner. Look for things to do that you used to do as a couple. Rediscover what interested you in each other in the first place, or find ways to deepen your connection by understanding what works in your relationship. You will need ways to stop your marriage from stagnating and falling back into bad habits. Introduce fresh ideas and new ways of looking at the relationship as well as tips and tricks to apply to help spark that lost passion.
The Next Step
Now that your relationship is back on keel, you might consider moving on to the next level. If you haven't done it till now, try to deeply understand your partner. Delve into his background, thoughts, feelings and goals. Go on dates. While being with someone for a long time makes it easy to slip into a stable and comfortable routine, the problem is you often lose that fire that made your relationship so special in the first place. So continue dating well into the marriage, even after the children have arrived. Be unique in your romantic endeavors and heat up the lovemaking. This will ensure that not only the spark remains, but that it's kept at a roaring blaze.
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This article was written by Darren Gladstone, UK Marketing Director of date.co.uk, part of the Spark Networks
online dating group. date.co.uk provides a safe a friendly meeting place for
UK singles and offers features including unique 'Click', Photo Albums and payment by mobile phone.
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